Welcome to the July 2004 issue of A System that Works...For Your Success!
Our Focus for this month includes: 
* Points to Ponder
* Insight & Wisdom
* What's New
* Upcoming Programs & Events
* Websites to Explore
Points to Ponder
Often the articles I write are based on things taking place for me personally and/or professionally or with those around me. In last month's newsletter I talked about change. Several things kept coming to mind (and some experiences) throughout this past month related to aspects associated with change. We have often heard that the only constant in life is change. This may be true. Yet, change may also stir up resistance, stress, chaos and/or confusion, uneasiness, etc. As the change process continues we eventually move into experiencing clarity, understanding and commitment to "the new way".
So let's look further at the big R. Resistance is a biggie and can show up in myriad ways including:
* procrastination and avoidance
* lack of clarity and focus
* physical ailments
* missing or arriving late for appointments, deadlines, etc.
* misplacing and/or losing things
* edginess
So if change is a given and resistance is a natural by-product of change, what do you do? The answer to this varies for each one of us. Keep in mind the things you already know that work for you, in times of change and resistance, as you read the following recommendations.
1. Acknowledge and accept what is taking place. And remember acceptance doesn't mean agreement or that you like what is going on. Acknowledgment and acceptance means you see things for what they are; for example, "My workplace is doing more with less. I acknowledge that I am concerned about how this is going to affect me."  "I accept that I am feeling afraid because of what these changes may mean ..."  Or, "I sense resistance to  ___________ because..."
2. Ask yourself the following questions either when journaling, in meditation or contemplation, while taking a walk, spending time in nature, or some other reflective activity.
    . what is behind the resistance? Is it: fear? Helplessness? Lack of understanding of my role and/or the process involved with the changes taking place? What are my underlying beliefs?
    . what are the signs and symptoms showing up in my outer life? how am I feeling about ________? Remember, it is okay to acknowledge, express and feel your feelings. Not doing so is what often causes stress, physical ailments, etc.. Hint: one clue to look for is the language you use, i.e., things are stalled, or I don't know..., or what should I do? or when will they make up their minds? or I am sick and tired of them always changing things...--you get the idea now.
    . who is speaking (or acting out)? Note: sometimes it is the scared child part of us that is afraid of the change and what it represents.
    . how have I handled and moved through similar situations/change/resistance in the past? What works best for me, especially in my current work/life situation?
    . what might I gain (or learn) from this experience? what is working in my life/work now?
As you listen to your responses the above questions, begin to think about what you can do with the information, how you might handle things that come up, anticipate what if scenarios, keep breathing. And trust yourself, trust what you know. This too shall pass.
3. At work and in your personal life, talk to the others involved with or affected by the change. Ask questions. Seek clarity on what is taking place. Our n-ego (negative ego often acting as the chatterbox) can run wild with assumptions. You'll find that clear, timely, honest communication is one of the best antidotes to resistance.
4. Take care of yourself personally-physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually- and professionally. Self manage. Treat yourself with compassion, respect and kindness. Take responsibility for yourself, your attitude, your choices, your actions. And hold others accountable for their agreements and areas of responsibility.
5. Take time to plan things. And also debrief at the end of each day/week/significant event. Asking yourself questions like:  "What went well?", "What would I do differently the next time?" leads to continuous improvement. It also gives you more control over outcomes.
Awareness of how you respond to change, along with how resistance may show up, is a gift you give to yourself.
In the Flow of Awareness,
(C) 2004, Antoinette S. Webster, All rights reserved. Antoinette@ASystemthatWorks.com.
Insight & Wisdom

"If there is truly nothing that you can do to change your here and now, and you can't remove yourself from the situation, then accept your here and now totally by dropping all inner resistance. The false, unhappy self that loves feeling miserable, resentful, or sorry for itself can then no longer survive. This is called surrender. Surrender is not weakness. There is great strength in it. Only a surrendered person has spiritual power. Through surrender you will be free internally of the situation. You may then find that the situation changes without any effort on your part. In any case, you are free."

- Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now


You don?t live a 100 years; you live an instant at a time.

                                                       -Tom Lane, 101 years old


It?s not the unknown that we fear.

It?s leaving the known that we fear.

- Anonymous



What's New
There are many things happening with ASW (and some changes, too) including:
* Revamping our website. Not to be surprised, but this is more involved that what we initially thought. Though it was determined to be essential because what was there before no longer fit ASW. In addition to our new look some of what we'll be offering includes virtual programs, regular articles and special reports to support you in keeping up-to-date, learning and growing, and on target. Anticipated date for launching the initial phase is August 1. So stay tuned...
* Antoinette, our President & CEO, has completed both phases of training and is now a LEAP II Practitioner. LEAP, Life Energy Alignment Process, is a dynamic process for facilitating transformation and positive change. Why get certified in LEAP? "LEAP is in alignment with how I naturally work with people for personal or professional growth and development, whether individually or in groups; in private sessions; or through programs at their place of work. LEAP allows me to expand my tools and resources to better assist clients in opening to transformation and taking the leap to their next level. And it has played an important part in my own personal and professional life."
Upcoming Programs/Events
Public Programs for July**
* 4-Week LEAP Focus Group Monday July 19 - August 9, 4-6 p.m. at the Tourmaline Life Center in Blue Ash. This Groups? focus is on Relationships. See attached flyer for details.
* Satori, a Radical Forgiveness experience game nights are Thursdays, July 22, 29 & August 5 from 6:30-9:30 p.m. at the Tourmaline Life Center in Blue Ash. Attend one, two or all three. Each game is a completely new and different experience so why not invest in your authentic self today. See attached flyer for details
Public Programs for August**
4-Week LEAP Focus Group, Tuesday's, August 3 ? August 24, 6:30-8:30 p.m. at ASW's offices in Hamilton/Fairfield area.  This Groups? focus is on Vitality.
* Satori, a Radical Forgiveness experience game night Thursday, August 12, from 6:30-9:30 p.m.
Tentatively scheduled for ASW's offices in Hamilton/Fairfield area.
** Space is limited and pre-registration is a must.
Note: Call or e-mail if you prefer program/event information in a text format.
Websites to Explore
LEAP, Life Energy Alignment Process, www.lifeenergyalignment.com
Radical Forgiveness Institute, www.radicalforgiveness.com, also check out Satori, the board game
Perfect Customers, www.perfectcustomers.com, based on the book Attracting Perfect Customers: The Power of Strategic Synchronicity by Stacey Hall & Jan Brogniez
That's all for this issue. May you have an insightful, prosperously productive month.
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ASW - A System that Works - is a speaking, training, facilitation, and coaching company focusing on professional, entrepreneurial, and personal growth and development. For information on our services and programs or to schedule a private session, contact: Antoinette S. Webster, President & CEO, ASW, 640 Foster Ave., Hamilton, OH 45015,  (513) 887-0600, Antoinette@ASystemthatWorks.com , www.ASystemthatWorks.com.

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